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THE MANUPSTATE PLEDGE

I pledge never to commit, condone or remain silent about violence against women. I pledge to learn about how I can help to end violence and discrimination against women and girls, and to work towards creating a community where all people are valued and safe.”

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Learn more about issues of violence against women and how men can be allies in the movement to stop it. “If the numbers we see in domestic violence were applied to terrorism or gang violence, the entire country would be up in arms, and it would...

Re-learn your history: Find out about powerful women who have shaped our society and teach your children and other youth about their contributions. “Some leaders are born women.” – Geraldine Ferraro When we learn about leaders in our history who have shaped our society, we rarely hear...

Give equal affection to your sons and your daughters. Demonstrate to them that healthy manhood involves hugging, holding hands, and kindness. “Every father needs to know that one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.” – Unknown As a father, show the same love...

Express your broad range of emotions - including fear, sadness and hurt - and support other men and boys in expressing their emotions in a safe way. “Empathy is about finding echoes of another person in yourself.”- Mohsin Hamid As socially constructed identities, boys and men learn...

Educate and re-educate your sons, daughters and other young people that you influence about respectful behaviors and healthy relationships. “Love is what creates the freedom and relaxation to be who we truly are.” – S.D. Giten “My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived...

Remember that silence is affirming. When we choose not to speak out against domestic and sexual violence, we are supporting it. “Dominant groups are rarely challenged to think about their dominance, because that's one of the key characteristics of power and privilege: the ability to go...

Talk with men and boys in your life about healthy manhood and the importance of respecting women and girls. “Every day we hear news stories about violence but rarely, if ever, are they linked to masculinity. It’s time to make the connection between the epidemic of...

Challenge other men when they tease or harass men and boys for not being “manly” enough. Let people know that you find these comments offensive and limiting. “If it would destroy a 12-year-old boy to be called a ‘girl’, what then are we teaching him about...

  Speak out against gender discrimination and violence - and explain why it is offensive to you. “Most men aren’t rapists and abusers, but most rapists and abusers are men.” – Christine Smith, Hope Haven “We need more men with the courage, strength and moral integrity to break...

Lead by Example. Be a role model for other men and boys in your community. Teach your children to be respectful and never abusive toward others. Serve as a good father and equal partner in your family. “The reality is that men do care about issues...